So Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli were travelling in a car when they saw someone up ahead throw plastic trash out of a car window.



Instead of just driving on, Anushka rolled down the window and asked the car occupants why they were throwing garbage on the road ? And then told them that they just can’t do something like that and to use a dustbin the next time.

The people in the car probably didn’t even process what was happening completely since the entire episode was over in 10 seconds.

They gentleman in question, Mr Arhan Singh then posted his side of the story.



He seemed to downplay his mistake and instead went on the offensive that Anushka and Virat could have been more polite and there was no need post this video online.

Twitter is sort of divided on this and there are people supporting both sides.

 

Let me share a small insight that might help us all in dealing with such situations in the future.

When we moved back to India, I used to wonder why people break traffic rules and why is there so much chaos on the roads. Like a typical person, I used to curse the rule breakers ( autos, cab drivers, executives in luxury cars – there are no class distinctions between the offenders ) till one day I decided to try a different approach.

I actually asked a few folks, very politely, why they were breaking the rules.

On Delhi / Gurgaon’s roads, if you start with aggression, you will get aggression back for sure.

However, if you start with politeness, it stumps a lot of people and they don’t know how to respond as politeness is not really expected.

Most of the offenders were sheepish and mentioned a variety of reasons.

The prime reason that i could figure out why people break rules – because they don’t know what the rules are in the first place.

Most of the times, they don’t even realise that they are breaking a rule ( e.g. Lane driving – why, and where the fuck is the lane ? ) though there are a lot of entitled idiots who knowingly break rules.

There is no social stigma to breaking rules in India – because nobody questions the rule breakers or those with low civic sense.

In America, I actually had to take driving lessons and was very nervous about passing the driving test. It’s incredible how seriously driving instructors and testers take their job – and have no qualms about failing somebody if they fail to stop at a ‘STOP’ sign during the test.

In Gurgaon, you only need to visit the driving license testing track near the Mini Secretariat to understand what a joke of a system we have for training and vetting the drivers.

Most people learn driving from other people, and if the person who is teaching you does not know the right stuff, it’s unlikely he/she is going to teach you properly.

 

Coming back to Anushka and Mr Singh :

  • Yes, Mr Singh made a mistake by throwing trash outside his car. ( I doubt Virat and Anushka will do this just for publicity )
  • Anushka Sharma absolutely did the right thing by speaking.
  • Was Virat right in making and sharing the video ? Yes, it got people talking and thinking about the issue.

Hopefully, it will result in lesser people throwing trash outside their car windows.

The question is, could Anushka have been a bit more polite ?

Yes.

Maybe the rude tone was a natural reflex action in response to an incident about an issue which is important to her.

We all react similarly when we deal with different issues that are important to us. And when we react aggressively, it sometimes shifts the focus from the real issue.

Try politeness next time instead of anger.

Maybe the other person does not realise or are not aware, or maybe they are even willingly making mistake.

A little empathy can go a longer way, even though it maybe harder for you to control your anger.

And yes, whether politely or impolitely, if you see something, say something.

Edmund Burke, an english statesman once said, ”Β “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

As we can see from Gurgaon resident Priya Menon’s tweet’s, it works if you speak up πŸ™‚



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